This is the parenting book for my generation. Most other parenting books assume that you, the parent, have actually grown-up and are, at least, a fairly mature individual. This book does not make that mistake.
To sum up the book: Don’t expect your kids to ease your anxiety. Deal with your own anxiety.
I think Runkel has some good thought and good recommendations. Our kids should not be the center of our worlds, but they should be apart of the world we live in. (as in the bit of life that you live) Your child is his own individual, let him be who he is and don’t expect him to not try for independence.
At the same time, Runkel doesn’t really talk about actually discipline. He just says that once you decide on some method, know why you are doing that, and stick to it. He doesn’t really address training or disciplining your children. What he does do is talk to a generation who are still kids themselves and before they can train or discipline their own children, they must finish their own growing up.
Add in “Shepherding a Child’s Heart” and “Dare to Discipline” and I think you’ve got a set of books that address the various aspects of parenting.